What is Wabi-Sabi? Ask a Japanese this question and there will likely be a long silence. Pose the same question to an American, however, the answer will often be quick and sure: “It’s beauty of things imperfect!”
Wabi-Sabi (wah-bee sah-bee), according to designer Leonard Koren, “ is a beauty of things imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete. It is a beauty of things modest and humble. It is a beauty of things unconventional.”
(An aside: Leonard, who built a full-scale Japanese tea house out of scavenged materials, has created bath events, unusual bathing environments, and paper works about bathing—including the fold-out book 17 Beautiful Men Taking a Shower , the silkscreen print 23 Beautiful Women Taking a Bath and WET: THE MAGAZINE OF GOURMET BATHING. His mural “Beverly Hills Siddhartha” covered 500 square meters.)
Wabi-Sabi is an authenticity that comes from 3 simple realities – nothing lasts, nothing is finished, and nothing is perfect.
Wabi refers to harmony, peace, tranquility and balance. A wabi person epitomizes Zen – content with very little, free from greed, indolence, and anger. Sabi means “the bloom of time – the natural progression to tarnish, hoariness, rust , fading. “Time is kind to things, but unkind to man.”
A popular fable is often used to explain wabi-sabi. Sen no Rikyu desired to learn The Way of Tea. He visited the Tea Master, Takeno Joo. Joo ordered Rikyu to tend the garden. Eagerly Rikyu set to work. He raked the garden until the ground was in perfect order. When he had finished he surveyed his work. He then shook the cherry tree, causing a few flowers to fall at random onto the ground. The Tea Master Joo admitted Rikyu to his school.
Wabi-Sabi has long been applied to design and in architecture. Wabi-sabi has now been extended to relationships. The truth is you’re not perfect, and neither is your partner. But you can be perfectly imperfect together.
In Wabi Sabi Love, international bestselling author and relationship expert Arielle Ford applies the wisdom of Wabi Sabi—the ancient Japanese idea of illuminating the beauty in imperfection—to love relationships. Wabi Sabi Love is the practice of exploring, embracing, and cherishing the quirks, irritations, and limitations that make you and your partner unique and that form your shared history as a couple.
Wabi Sabi Love provides the tools to see yourself, your partner, and your partnership in an entirely new light, develop a deep and profound appreciation for each other, and experience more balance, harmony, and joy in your relationship than ever before. Wabi Sabi Love teaches you to:
*turn conflict into connection and differences into mutual passions
*move from “annoyed” to “enjoyed”
*establish new beliefs and habits that better serve your relationship
*cultivate humor, humility, and generosity to diffuse those moments when you would normally retreat or slip into tired judgments, criticisms, or resentments
Using real-life stories of couples who applied Wabi Sabi and found their relationships transformed, Wabi Sabi Love can revolutionize your relationship whether you’re navigating financial challenges, raising children, caring for aging parents, coping with a seemingly insurmountable betrayal, or just facing mundane frustrations and everyday stressors. By shifting the focus from what’s wrong to what’s right, Wabi Sabi Love reveals a pathway to true love and your happily ever after.
Finally, two wabi-sabi images – a picture of the wrecked POINT REYES and one of leaves: